8 Ways To Respond When Facing Rejection
By: Holly Tate April 22, 2013
You will learn more about a person’s character when they face rejection than when they face success. It’s easy to feel enthusiastic, fearless, and prideful when we feel successful. However, being rejected or feeling defeated humbles us and often brings us to the end of ourselves.
During your job search, don’t let rejection get in the way between you and your calling.
Here are eight ways I suggest responding when facing rejection:
1. Keep Perspective - It's human nature to feel like giving up. Do your best to keep things in perspective. God has created you with your unique gifts and skill set. Trust that He will open and close the right doors for you during your job search. As difficult as it is, try not to take the rejection process personally.
2. Stay Positive – Negativity is unattractive. When you’ve been rejected, it’s easy to go into the next job interview already feeling defeated. Stay positive and go into each interview with fresh energy and a positive perspective that this is an opportunity to make a new connection and see where God is leading.
3. Be Thankful – No matter what we are facing, there is always something to be thankful for. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 says, “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” On days when you feel hopeless, write this Bible verse down and put it where you will see it often. If you had a phone or face-to-face interview, thank the interviewer for their time. As you intentionally practice thankfulness, you’ll find it’s much easier to stay positive.
4. Request Feedback – After you have thanked the hiring manager for their time and consideration, respectfully ask for constructive feedback. Even if you thought you were perfect for the job, you don’t know all the details that went into the hiring decision. Respect the hiring manager’s decision, and look at this closed door as a growth opportunity to learn more about yourself.
5. Thoughtfully Reflect – When facing rejection, I recommend journaling to help you reflect on how you’re feeling. I suggest making a list of all your feelings and try to write about why you think you are feeling this way. Then, write down some encouraging Bible verses that speak to your feelings. You may also find it helpful to make a list of action steps to stay motivated as you keep searching. Ask God to show you what He’s teaching you throughout the job search.
6. Stay In Touch – If appropriate, keep in touch with the hiring manager. As you update your resume or attain new preaching samples, send them along with a brief note to the hiring manager. Follow the church or company on social media or join their newsletter to stay updated on the newest job opportunities. You never know when and where new opportunities will present themselves.
7. Build Support System – Be sure you have a strong support system around you consisting of your family, friends, and spiritual community. It’s easy to withdrawal when we feel rejected, defeated, or embarrassed. However, one of the best things you can do throughout your search is keep your support system updated on the type of opportunities that resonate with you and how they can pray for you.
8. Persevere – Don’t give up. As hard as it feels sometimes, giving up is the worst thing you can do. God will never give up on you, so don’t give up on Him.
What advice do you have for those who are facing rejection or defeat during their job search?