10 Ways To Tell If You Should Leave Your Leadership Post
Over the years, I’ve gotten to hear some pretty vulnerable conversations from pastors. They’re honest with me about their fears, doubts, and uncertainties about the future. And I have to say that the frequency of those conversations has grown tremendously since the pandemic. It’s as if the disruption the virus brought has gotten pastors thinking more honestly about their effectiveness going forward. “Can I think like a digital native, or should we have a younger pastor?” “Can I preach into a camera in an empty room, or should we have a bigger teaching team?” “I was ready to coast into the last years of my ministry, but this pandemic has me wondering if we don’t need someone who is allergic to coasting!” These are real conversations I’m hearing, and I’m hearing them a lot.
Some might say that’s a bad thing; that pastors should just gut it out and not worry about the changing world around them. I actually disagree. I’m so proud to see pastors asking the hard questions about their careers in a world that has turned upside down. It’s counterintuitive to “strong” leadership, but I think it might be the bravest leadership I’ve seen in my career. The answer to these questions isn’t always to leave, but asking the question of “is it time to leave?” may be more important than ever.
Up until the pandemic, conventional wisdom would tell us just the opposite. But now, we are in uncharted waters and it’s time to either adapt or consider what comes next.
Ways God Might Show You It’s Time to Move On
Consider Brett Favre. He is one of the most decorated quarterbacks in NFL history. His legacy is largely defined by gritty, gutsy play. That kind of courage and the confidence that comes with it are a big part of what made Brett Favre one of the best football players in his era.
But his legacy is now also defined by his inability to recognize when it was time to move on. When it came time to find a new future, Brett didn’t end well. He retired, then un-retired several times. He kept believing that he had one more good year in him, even when his body and performance clearly told him otherwise. His series of transitions was so tragic that it even became the butt of late-night television jokes.
There’s a lesson to be learned from Favre. A person’s greatest strength, when unguarded, can become that same person’s greatest weakness. Favre’s story, like that of so many other aging athletes who stay one too many seasons, is not just played out in sports. I’ve watched it played out in our field of work all the time. Far too often, highly competent pastors do the same thing in their churches that Favre did on the football field.
While no succession is identical to another, and all have complexities unlike any other, there are still some general principles I’ve found to be true when it comes to starting the succession conversation.
In ministry, a pastor’s confidence—one of the qualities God uses to build a church—can become one of the biggest obstacles to pastoral succession. The very voice of confidence that overcomes the fear of public speaking and enables a pastor for years to get up in front of the congregation and boldly proclaim God’s Word—that voice, if unchecked, can also whisper in the pastor’s ear, “You’ve got another good year or two in you.”
And so begins the far-too-often-played story of the pastor who keeps hanging on long after their vision and energy for the current ministry are gone, long after the community around the church has changed, or long after the congregation has stagnated. No pastor wants that for a legacy. No pastor wants to be the leader who walks out of a meeting only to be the subject of the next conversation that centers around, “How do we tell the Pastor that we think it’s time to consider a change?”
So how do you know when your time has come to let go? What questions can pastors and their trusted advisors ask and discuss that will help them decide whether they really have one more year left in them?
If your succession is one you can plan and have some control over, these ten indicators might help you know when it is the right time to leave. They can also help you discern if you should stay longer—but not too long.
God gives you a clear sign. This may range from Scripture that comes alive to a vision or dream. Sometimes compelling circumstances serve as a divine sign, such as a financial situation becoming unworkable or unsustainable for you or your family. Consider praying for confirmation or a sign from the Lord regarding if you should stay or not.
Your leadership speaks. Your spiritual authority may be a denominational superintendent or bishop or the governance board at your church. If they try to start a conversation with you about succession, try to be open-minded about having it. They most likely just want the best for the church body and spiritual life of the church.
Your part of the mission is complete. You have fulfilled what God originally called you to do, and God has not extended or enlarged the challenge.
You lose heart. The passion or other spiritual fire you once knew for this church and situation has clearly departed (and hopefully you are now sensing in its place a big heart for another location or ministry).
Others confirm it. Your close friends or other trusted advisors affirm that your time at this church is finished.
You receive a new call. This may start in your heart or in an actual invitation from another church or ministry where your gifts can be used more effectively than in a current situation.
A mismatch develops. You can no longer reach those your church needs to reach, such as a certain age group, economic level, lifestyle, or racial demographic. Perhaps the church’s vision has shifted, and you can no longer align with it.
Collaboration ends. The place you serve becomes more of an enemy than your ally. Or perhaps your family is experiencing deep pain because of your present environment.
The church begins to show a lack of confidence in your vision and/or leadership. Attendance may decline or plateau. Perhaps the church has the potential to go forward in its mission, but you don’t seem to be the right one to provide the leadership, training, and outreach the church needs for its next chapter.
You reach physical or emotional limits. You no longer have the physical strength, mental quickness, or physical agility to fulfill the job needed.
Starting the Conversation Can Be the Hardest Step
Many (and perhaps most) pastors need the help of others to begin developing a succession plan. For some people, the hardest step is to where to begin the discussion. Sometimes someone other than the pastor, such as a caring elder or board member, needs to broach the topic. It may require a spouse, a close friend in or out of the church, an independent advisor such as a denominational leader, or a combination of all three.
Succession doesn’t end once you set your plan. It’s not a one-time event. Rather, it’s a constant discipline.
How do you assess your standing in terms of whether it’s time to move on? You calculate how your defeats compare to your victories as viewed by the congregation. Then you take it to God.
In the end, I’ve seen that most of the success of a pastoral transition rises and falls on the shoulders of the outgoing pastor. It may seem weak to ask if you’re still the right person for your post. I’d argue just the opposite. Pastors who can commit to regularly exploring the questions above, as well as the larger question of whether or not it is time to transition, will go a long way toward ensuring a great transition. In doing so, they will also write the sentences on the most lasting and important part of their legacy.