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3 Actions To Take Before Sending A Text Or Email

Posted by Tracey Smith on 7/26/17 7:01 AM

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Over the past decade, we have seen several significant changes to the way we do ministry due to the advancement of technology. Among all these technological advancements, perhaps the changes that have best helped pastors be more efficient is email and text. Our communication is almost instantaneous. Some of us can still remember when we had to sit down to hand write a letter, only to wait two or three days before it would reach the other person. 

Times have changed now, and most of the emails or texts we’ve written have been more helpful and allowed us to communicate more efficiently. But emails and texts can also get us in a lot of trouble if we're not intentional about communicating clearly. In ministry, we're often emailing and texting about emotionally and spiritually heavy topics, which makes it even more important that we take responsibility for how we're communicating as ministry leaders. I have heard many stories where emails or texts have gotten pastors in so much trouble that some have even lost their jobs because of miscommunication over email or text.

So, what can we do to help ensure that our emails or texts are being helpful and not hurtful?

Here are some tips to consider before writing an important email or text:

1. Reflect Before Hitting Send

Before you shoot back a quick text or email reply, ask yourself, "Should this conversation take place digitally or in-person?" It's easy to find yourself in a heated text or email thread when it would have been best to meet with the person face-to-face to talk through the issue. 

I recently received an email from someone who was trying to apologize for something but the email came across as being quite offensive. It made me pause and think of how many emails I have written in my lifetime that probably had the same intention but came across as a little offensive. It made me reflect on how many times I sent an email when I should have called the person or asked to meet with them to resolve the issue. 

So before you send that text or email, especially if it's about a difficult topic, reflect and determine the best means of communication for your message.

2. Be Simple & Clear

According to the Nonverbal Group, the majority of communication is non-verbal. When you're writing a text or email, non-verbal "language" isn't communicated. This means you need to go the extra mile when communicating over text or email to ensure you're clearly communicating your intended message.

To expand on the apology email example, if you're truly apologizing, then simply apologize and nothing else. Simply saying “I’m sorry!” and telling what you are sorry about will be enough. Usually, the other person is mainly interested in hearing that you understand where they’re coming from and hope to make things better.

Ever heard of the “KISS” method?  “Keep It Simple Stupid.” This was probably some of the best advice ever given to me as a young leader. By humbling yourself and looking through the other person’s perspective, you open the door to more effective communication in the future.

3. Don’t Be Defensive  

When communicating about an important topic, whether via email, text, or face-to-face, being defensive will not get you anywhere. In fact, it usually makes the other person become defensive as well, ultimately counteracting any progress you’re trying to make.

Before sending that email or text, evaluate how you feel and what you’re trying to communicate. Ask yourself, “Is there a chance this will be taken the wrong way?” or “How can I be more gracious in my response?”

When in doubt, wait to send the email.Tweet: When in doubt, wait to send the email. http://bit.ly/2utpjzv via @VanderbloemenSG

You may come back later and realize that there’s either a better way to say it, or it probably shouldn’t have been sent in the first place.

So, remember, next time you need to write an email or text about an important issue, reflect. Think about what you intend for the reader to get from the email.

These few tips will hopefully aid in guiding you through any future conflict or help you avoid it before it happens. Above all, this can be avoided by simply being aware of potential barriers to communication as you text, email, or call your staff team.

What are some other email tips that we can learn from you to help us better serve the people we work with each day?

Topics: Church Development, Team Building, Senior Leadership

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